Relationships bring out the best in us or the worse. Acceptance of this morsel of truth, we can also say; all intimate unions are different. We are all distinctively special and because of this, what would work for one couple would not work for another.
Skeletons in our closets may haunt you from time to time and for the sake of your conscience you may feel compelled to tell all to your mate. Ask yourself how this new bit of information would affect him? Does he literally see you as his angel? Do you really want to mar his image of you, and would this be worth it? Honesty does not always mean a confession.
Perhaps you have an understanding mate and you’ve discovered that you can talk to each other about anything. All in all, there are still some things that you would be better off keeping to yourself, to respect each other’s heart and prevent hurt feelings. For example; if you dreamt about an ex lover or mate, there isn’t any reason to tell your mate about this. A little bit of empathy can go a long way in a relationship.
Everyone becomes nostalgic from time to time, and when you have gone through the highs and lows that life brings, you yearn to be able to talk to your mate about the wounds in your heart. This can be a testy situation. Test the waters first. Sometimes, it will be to your best interest to have a good friend whom you can talk to about anything, one that will not judge or be critical when you begin to pour out your heart. In this way, you have your confidant and you haven’t burdened your mate. Your soul will feel lighter.
We’ve all seen the horror stories on television about the groom bedding down the brides best friend the day before they are to get married. Is this some kind of perverted joke from the “friend” you thought you had? Should you find out, would you ever be able to trust either one of them again?
When two people are committed to each other, they respect each others feelings; especially when they break down and cry in front of them, leaving tidbits of their past upon the carpet. Hope comes when they see the crumbs gently picked up without any judgment and placed inside a golden jar to be set up high upon a shelf. After all, it’s part of their life. Wisdom says fewer words can be a gift from God.
